Here’s Why You Should Start Unlearning... Now

Posted by Tanya | Healing y Cultura Blog Series 

There’s a moment in every first-gen journey when you realize—wait, why do I think this way?

Why do I feel guilty for resting?

Why do I think I need to earn love through achievement?

Why do I feel selfish when I set boundaries?

That moment? That’s the starting line. And if you’ve been waiting for a sign to start unlearning, this is it, bb.

Unlearning Isn’t Rebellion—It’s Reconnection

So many of us grew up translating paperwork, explaining TikTok to our parents, and figuring out FAFSA with vibes and vibes only. We became experts at code-switching, pushing through, and “not causing problems.” But what no one told us is that we absorbed more than responsibility—we absorbed survival habits.

It’s time to start asking:🌱 Is this belief helping me or holding me back?🌱 Am I living from love… or from fear?

Porque Healing Es Incómodo… Pero Worth It

Unlearning is awkward.

It’s saying “no” when your body is shaking.

It’s telling your inner voice, “I’m not lazy, I’m tired.”

It’s breaking generational patterns with no blueprint, just vibes, therapy, and a Café de Olla in hand.

Pero guess what? Every time you choose truth over people-pleasing, you’re healing.

Every time you rest without guilt, you’re healing.

Every time you say, “actually, I do need help,” you’re healing.

You’re not starting over—you’re starting real.

Start Now Because...

You deserve more than surviving.You deserve joy, rest, and softness—without explanation.

You don’t have to be “healed” to start. You just have to be honest.

Start now, start messy, start while overthinking. But start.

Because the longer we wait, the more we miss out on becoming who we’re really meant to be. And I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of shrinking.

A quiet morning with my cafecito, journaling out all the chisme my inner child has been holding in for years. Healing is wild.

Helpful Reads:

• How to Spot Generational Patterns

• Rest is Resistance by Tricia Hersey

• Boundaries 101 for First-Gens

  
  

Tell me in the comments:What’s one belief you’re starting to unlearn right now? 👇'

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